Thistles and Weeds

I love all kinds of music. I don’t even mind the occasional country song or two. The problem is that I’m completely ignorant when it comes to knowing the names of the artists producing the music I like. This became very apparent when I recently discovered that several songs I like all come from the same band – even the same album – which is “Sigh No More” by Mumford & Sons. Now that I finally own that album I’m playing it all the time, so much so that my boys (Maddox and Liam) will randomly start singing “Rain down, rain down on me, and I will hold on, I will hold on, so rain down, rain down on me.”  They sing that song over and over, which for now is really cute. Mumford & Sons’ song Thistles & Weeds contains the following lyric:

            Plant your hope with good seed,
            Don’t cover yourself with thistle and weeds.
            Rain down, rain down on me. 

Because of their love of that song, Maddox (my 5 year-old) recently asked “Dadda, what’s a thistle?” Honestly, I didn’t know what a thistle looks like, so I Googled it and discovered that they are those thorny weeds with the purple flower tops that sprout up all over Reno. This turned into an amazing discipleship opportunity with Maddox, because it immediately reminded me of Jesus’ words in Matthew 13:3-9:

“And he told them many things in parables, saying: ‘A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured them. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and immediately they sprang up, since they had no depth of soil, but when the sun rose they were scorched. And since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and produced grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. He who has ears, let him hear.’”

I was able to explain this parable to Maddox in a way that he would understand, really focusing on the seed that fell among the thorns. I explained how there are people and things that try to choke out the “good seed” that has been planted in us, similar to how thistles and weeds will kill nearby flowers because they drink up all the available water. I then taught him, like the song says, that we must “hold on, hold on” to Jesus with all that we’ve got. For some reason this really fascinated Maddox, so I took advantage of this opportunity to disciple my son.  We spent the next hour looking at different pictures of thistles, all the while I was answering his many questions.

When thinking of “family devotion time,” what comes to mind?

Many people think they’ve got to carve out an hour of their day to read the Bible to their spouse and/or children and then close in prayer. Usually, then, they beat themselves up for failing to meet this expectation. If you read the Bible to your kids every night that’s great, but my hope is that your view of family devotion is not simply narrowed to this short scope of time. That actually is not devotion at all. Rather, what you are teaching your children is that faith is a segmented part of their life, simply relegated to an hour in your day (if that).

“Devotion is a lifestyle.”

Devotion is a lifestyle and there are examples all around us that can be used to point to the goodness and love of God as well as the overarching story of the Bible (Creation – Fall – Redemption – Restoration). The question is, do you see them? Are you yourself devoted first and foremost to the Lord? By that I mean do you wake up thinking about God and His love for you in Christ? Is Jesus often on the forefront of your mind? It must start with you, before you can expect to lead your family in devotion to God. This is exactly what Deuteronomy 6:4-9 teaches:

“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

It starts with you. Do you “love the Lord your God” with your entire being? If so, then you will naturally teach your kids about the Lord every opportunity you get. If you are “sitting around the house” watching your kids’ favorite super hero movie for the hundredth time, are you asking yourself how you can take something they enjoy and show them how it is a shadow and a picture of the true Super Hero? When you are out and about “walking by the way” do you see things that point to God’s beauty in creation, or do you see things that are fallen and in need of a Savior? If so, then point those out to your kids, talk about them with your spouse. When your kids “lie down” for bed, is saying good night to Jesus part of their routine? When you “rise” in the morning are you teaching them to look to Jesus for strength and guidance for their day?

The great thing about leading a life of family devotion is that it can look different every day; it doesn’t have to be just one way. However you choose to disciple your kids, I pray that Proverbs 22:6 will be true for all of us: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Here are some recommended resources that I use with my boys:

Forget Your Fear

The Gospel is not complicated. It can be summed up in 5 points (inspired by Andy Stanley).

1. WE SIN and are separated from God because heʼs perfect.

2. GOD LOVES his people regardless of their sin.

3. GOD CAME in Jesus to fix the separation by living and dying for our sin.

4. WE BELIEVE Jesus lived perfectly for us and died for our sins.

5. WE RECEIVE life with God for eternity.

But why do we fear telling people about it? Below are four fears that paralyze our Gospel

witness. Each fear has a gospel remedy.

1. Fear of questions

What if they try to debate me? What if they ask me questions and I donʼt have adequate
answers?

Gospel Remedy: What if their belief wasnʼt dependent upon your answers? While
obtaining knowledge to answer questions is a good practice, it is not your answers that
makes people believe. Belief in Jesus comes from a change in heart (John 3:3). Even
if you had the perfect answers, you canʼt change peopleʼs hearts. In fact, Iʼve found
people appreciate the humility of Christians admitting that they donʼt know everything.
You donʼt need to know everything, you just need to know gospel.

So relax, let God be God and be ok with not knowing.

2. Fear I wonʼt succeed

There is no way my friend will believe. He hates organized religion and has nothing
good to say about God.

Gospel Remedy: Your right. There is no way your friend will believe, apart from a
miracle of God. Faith is a gift from God (Ephesians 2:8). Nobody comes to belief in
Jesus on their own, God has to give it to them. It doesnʼt matter how much your friend
hates God, Iʼm pretty sure the Creator of the universe has the power to change their
heart and grant belief. Jesus got off his thrown and onto a cross to pay for the sins of
his people. If he was willing to die for his people, donʼt you think heʼd be willing to grant
belief to the people for whom he died? Since we donʼt know when he will do this, we
must share the gospel as often as possible. How is anyone to believe in news they
havenʼt heard?

3. Fear of rejection

If I tell them about Jesus, they are bound to hate me. Theyʼll think Iʼm some religious
freak trying to push an agenda. I know theyʼll mock me.

Gospel Remedy: This is possible and quite probable. Does it surprise you? Jesus said
many people will hate his followers because they hated him. (John 15:18) Rejection
didnʼt stop him from his mission. Not only was he rejected by men, but on the cross he
was rejected by God so you could be accepted by God. If we donʼt tell others about
Jesus because we are scared of their rejection, we are functionally proclaiming that we
desire the acceptance of others over the acceptance of God. Is Godʼs approval so
cheap that we need look elsewhere? Heck no! So let us be satisfied with the approval of
our King an let us image our savior and by risking rejection for the sake of those who
would believe. Many will hate what we have to say. But some will find our message to
be the power of God for salvation.

4. Fear of weird

Wonʼt the relationship get weird if I start sharing the Gospel? I donʼt want to ruin any
connections or friendships.

Gospel Remedy: This could be, but my experience is that it only getʼs weird when we
act weird. Do your relationships get weird when you talk about the game winning
catch? Do they get weird when you explode with details about the accident you
witnessed? Or what about when tell them about the hero in your favorite movie? No!
Why is talking about Jesus so much different? When I get weird, itʼs because I think
telling someone about Jesus is like convincing them that Sasquatch is real (he is by the
way). But Jesus is not some mythical legend, heʼs real! Thatʼs why the gospel is by
definition good NEWS. It happened. Itʼs news! We forget this when we forget the
transforming work heʼs done in our lives. What if we oriented ourselves so closely to
the work heʼs done in our lives, that we couldnʼt help but proclaim his greatness?
Additionally, if we fail to share the gospel because we fear awkward moments, we
functionally declare our extreme selfishness. We want the relationship because we want
the comfort it provides, not because we care about the other person. If we really cared,
we would tell them about Jesus. A friend of mine told me he was sitting in an airport
terminal a couple weeks ago when he noticed an update on his phone informing him
that his plane was delayed. Knowing the people around him would be effected, he
risked some awkward conversations to tell them the news. The reason we donʼt want to
risk the awkward moments is because we forget people around us will be effected by
the news we hold. Remember, apart from belief in the gospel, people are going to hell.
We hold the lifesaving message. It is worth an awkward conversation because the
gospel “is the power of God for salvation to those who believe.” (Romans 1:16)

“Let us live as though the glories of heaven were in our eyes and the stench of hell in our nostrils.”

As the old adage says, let us live as though the glories of heaven were in our eyes and
the stench of hell in our nostrils. Every conversation matters. “Set your mind on things
that are above not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden
with Christ in God.” (Colossians 3:2-3)